Talk about it
Remember that your whole household is going through a big transition. Set aside time to talk about the fears and challenges each of you is dealing with. In doing so, you’ll foster a healthier way of processing emotions for everyone in your home.
Try to involve each other in the process of confronting both the ups and downs so that you can learn and grow together. You may discover that the fears you think they have are only your own, and your child is purely excited, looking forward to seeing people again in person and learning in that environment. Whatever it is, this will be a big transition, and it deserves a dedicated space to talk about it.
Transition wisely
Transition the sleep time and wake-up time a week or so before school starts to allow time for a proper transition. Everyone benefits from rest. The kids will be less cranky and feel less overwhelmed and you’ll be in a better position to help your kids (and yourself) cope with the transition.
Take a moment to express gratitude
As the summer comes to a close, take the time to remember and truly appreciate all the good times and fun experiences the summer had to offer. Gratitude has the power to change our mindset from wanting more to having enough.
Stay flexible and adaptable
Let your child know that the whole family is going to have to be flexible.Families should try their best to stay mentally flexible and ready to adapt, recognizing that for some time, things will be in a dynamic state before they settle down into something more consistent.
Kids require stability during times of change. Try your best to be present, predictable and consistent. You might be the only part of their lives and minds that feels that way right now. Be there for them and follow their lead as much as you can.
Think about your short-term and long-term goals and identify what qualities or energy you’ll need to make them happen — this is how intentions are formed.
Extend your compassion to others
Sometimes it helps to remember that you’re not the only experiencing fear and/or anxiety. Take a moment to consider how others may be feeling as well. The teacher is probably feeling some stress and anxiety about the upcoming school year with a new bunch of kids. The other kids probably share your kids’ worries. The other parents are also probably wondering how they are going to survive this transition this year. Even if it appears that everyone but you has their stuff together, I guarantee you that isn’t the case. Practice kindness toward others instead of assuming that you’re the only one struggling.
Be present and consistent
Kids who have trouble separating often just need time, and support from parents and teachers, to adjust. But if your child is having severe meltdowns at drop-off time for more than two or three weeks, and is unable to recover or to even stay at school, for more than three or four weeks, then seeking help can make a big difference.
Treatment for separation anxiety usually involves a therapist working with the child and the parents to plan step-by-step ways for them to practice separating a little at a time.
The best thing you can do is meet the reactions with compassion, warmth and calm, instead of reacting yourself. If you channel a peaceful energy, you’ll be able to share that with your kids when they need it the most. And they’ll need it.